If you haven’t tried it—what are you waiting for?  Masturbation is a healthy and normal part of life, yet statistics show that many women don’t begin this private affair until their 20s or 30s.  More than 90% of men have mastered the art by the time they reach adulthood, while only 60% of women have.   Ladies….what is the problem?  Embrace yourself—literally—and you’ll discover a world of pleasure.  Then take that knowledge into the bedroom and teach your partner how to rock your world. 

Forget the days (or misguided few who still preach) that masturbation will bring about such plagues as blindness, insanity, hairy palms, epilepsy, headaches, nosebleeds, asthma, heart murmurs and zits.  And forget that translation of ‘spilling the seed’ in the Old Testament.  It refers to withdrawing before ejaculation—which btw never works because sperm is found in pre-ejaculatory fluid too. 

Masturbation is a tool.  A lovely do it yourself project.  If you’re single, then you don’t have to risk one night stands.  If you’re in a relationship, no doubt one of you will have a higher sex drive.  The key is to communicate with your partner.  You don’t want masturbation to replace sex with them but rather become a tool for your relationship as a whole.  Some couples find that a schedule works best.  For example, sex twice a week or on a date night but help yourself all other nights.

As all good things in life masturbation must be in moderation and balance.  There is not a set rule or guideline to how much is too much.  To find your zone reflect on your life as a whole.  If your partner is satisfied with your sex life together, if you have a good social life outside of your relationship, if you do well at work etc then you’re doing fine. If you start locking yourself at home every weekend to spend time with your vibrating rabbit then you might want to pause to reconsider.

And since I brought up the good vibrations—don’t forget that lubrication is key! If you didn’t read last week’s entry then go back and take notes.  A fair warning, however, concerning these stimulating gizmos is this---a person can not mimic the same sensation of a vibrator.  So vary your routine to keep your orgasms coming.