You know what I’m talking about…. the curve of the lips, the raise of the eyebrows, or the shift in body language that comes along with flirting. The way the object of your flirtation catches their breath, looks momentarily speechless or forgets themselves in a burst of laughter when a dirty little joke is shared.  This is the kind of interplay that leaves you feeling sexy, powerful and alive.

Flirting is not just for in-person interaction anymore. Nowadays flirting comes with almost limitless options.  There is the keyboard to keyboard kind of flirting.  I’m talking about email, instant messaging, and other online activities.  Whatever your fetish, a chat room is sure to match it.   And of course don’t overlook the phone to phone style of flirting which can be either voice or text or a kinky little mix of both.

The exact lines of what makes the difference between a flirt and flirt slut is not easy to define.  Dr. Ruth cautions that anything which takes away valuable time from your partner is borderline cheating.  She also warns against engaging in intimate situations or activities that one might normally reserve for their partner.  For example, while masturbation is a wonderful and beautiful thing (and if you don’t believe me go back and read the blog entry for it), mutual masturbation is shall we say – more of a sticky situation.

Also be warned that even the most brief of ‘Google’ searches will return a clear statistical trend that office flirting can lead to office affairs.  This makes sense when you factor in how many days and hours a week you spend with that person.  Emotional connections develop.  Intimate connections are often not far behind.  And don’t forget—flirting at the office can literally get you fired (think sexual harassment).  Although you and yours may be ok with the public display of hormones, that doesn’t mean everyone else is so please… be discreet. 

What’s a flirt to do?  Be wise.  Respect it.  Flirting can be a wonderful, beautiful, energizing thing.  While it’s admittedly not for everyone, for many it is an irreplaceable part of who they are and how they express themselves.  It is an outlet to a stressful day.  The icing on a cupcake.  In the end I believe Janis Joplin says it best…'honey, get it while you can!’